You do NOT have to buy an urn from the funeral home or cemetery.
A few summers ago, I was making arrangements with a family at their cottage. (Yup, I will come to you). We talked about the urn for their mom, and they shared rapid thoughts of what she'd like.
"We're not doing any of that," I said.
Silence prevailed and jaws dropped
"Your mom's urn is in the room with us," I said as I pointed to the pot-bellied stove, upon which sat a kettle painted black and white like a dairy cow. It even had a red bell hanging from the spout! Her love of cows filled the cottage.
It held the place of honour on the table at the celebration service at the Victoria Inn in Winnipeg where the family told the story of it's journey from kettle to cherished urn.
So, what have I seen? I hope you noticed the picture for this blog. It was the wish of someone I knew to use that Tequila bottle. I've seen hockey skates, artillery shells, tackle and sewing boxes, and the list goes on. I teased my Mom about using her leaky Brown Betty teapot, but it was too small.
The choice of container can be as unique as you and your creativity.
Things to know when choosing your urn
- Will all of you fit? The minimum industry standard of an urn is 200 cubic inches. If your choice of urn is too small, the funeral home will return the remainder in separate packaging. If this concerns you, try to choose something larger and ask your funeral director for their advice.
- It should have a lid or some means to keep the Cremated Remains secure.
Cemeteries may have particular requirements, especially columbarium size that could restrict your wishes.
To close, I must say to everyone I've served over these many decades; I owe you a debt of gratitude. Your inspirations of cow kettles and tequila bottles are an absolute joy. It's a true honour for me to work with you.
Next up - travelling with Cremated Remains.
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