It can be a difficult conversation, but sometimes...
Talking about your funeral wishes can be one of the most challenging conversations you could have with your family or Executor.
Sometimes the conversation will go well. Mom and dad (aunt's, uncles, etc.) sit down and go over their plans, answer questions, and even banter over cheeky comments. They may also tell you they have or are in the process of pre-paying their funeral plans.
A big weight has been lifted and everyone feels better because a difficult conversation answered questions and made the wishes clear.
Then, there are times when children don't want to hear anything; perhaps thinking mom and dad are invincible, and this conversation is not necessary.
My best advice is to write out your wishes, put it in a sealed envelope and give it to your children. Tell them what it is and hope they'd read it sooner than later, so if there are questions, you are still here to answer them. If not, well, at least they know your wishes.
So, what if it's your parents that refuse to talk about their plans? Well, that's a lot tougher and could leave you scrambling to know what to do. It's like putting a puzzle together. With patience, try to gather one piece of information at a time by asking random questions, so you get an understanding of what they want.
While there can hardly be much worse than not knowing your loved one's funeral plans (or not having a Will), having a clear understanding is a significant burden lifted from everyone.
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